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“If he would just listen for a moment and let me finish speaking, I wouldn’t have to ask the same question three times.”
“I feel like he often doesn’t really listen, already projecting, and as a result, doesn’t hear or can’t hear the real problem.”
She sounds very angry.
After the course, I chat with Marjon, who expresses her frustration. The amount of information the course leader is bombarding us with feels overwhelming. We are learning to write for social media from a specialist who is guiding us at lightning speed, teaching us how to write posts that matter.
Of course, we didn’t hire him for his listening skills. We have colleagues, coaches, and therapists for that. We hired him to share information and teach us something.
I look back at the two hours of the course with satisfaction. Yes, a lot of information is coming at me, but I know I’m learning interesting things. It used to be different. I too would get extremely irritated if I felt unheard. Nowadays, I see it as an invitation to try it another way.
There’s always a good excuse to be irritated and angry. But then you push everyone away. There’s also always a good excuse to be cheerful and carefree.
It’s a choice, and you choose.
What do you do when you don’t feel heard? What does that do to you? How do you react, and what do you choose?
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